Day 16 : #RosaMoradaProject 💜 The first story involves NC* (Female, Latina/Asian) and Martin* (African-American). NC experienced the abusive relationship at the age of 24. Her abuser was 25 at the time. NC and Martin had met through a mutual friend and instantly became friends. They both shared a strong love for music. NC mentioned their relationship was fun and Martin was technically a rebound. Martin became verbally abusive almost immediately and became physically abusive on NYE 2015. NC shares how Martin was verbally abusive : "We were always arguing. He wouldn't know how to prove a point. When he would tell me what to do, something that I was already gonna do, he would resort to treating me like a dog by telling me "good girl" and would pat my head as a reward." The physical abuse started on NYE 2015. "He didn't show any signs prior other than telling me he did it to his ex. It was instant. He was dropping me off, we were arguing and I was proving a point and he just punched me and gave me a bloody nose. My nose was bleeding when we passed by a toll. I recognized the toll guy from all the times we would pass, I looked at him dead in the eye and said , "help me" but Martin sped off." "He showed no remorse. He didn't seem to care. I would have to spill it out to him how fucked up it was for him to react." - Was the relationship always abusive? "No. Verbally, yes. Physically, no. We would have simple disagreements like I would say the grass is long, he would say the grass is short, shit like that. The conversation would get serious for him by the end of it. He would make a sly comment, make it seem like he was smarter. He would make it seem like he knew better." - Did you speak out while you were in the relationship? "No. I didn't really tell anybody. My mom only knew about it after." -How did you get out? What was the final straw? "The last time he had me. It was the moment when I felt him grab me by my hair. That's when I felt like "oh no, this has got to change." I didn't have to anything (to get out) he sent himself to rehab for alcohol. I went without talking to him and he reached out to tell me. I didn't care, it didn't affect me anymore."