Sometimes people are confused by how I handle life. Everyone approaches life in their own way. Personally, focusing on what is wrong for me is soooooooo draining. Getting to know new people for this reason can be incredibly exhausting for me. Obviously people want to know about you when new meetings occur which many times means knowing about your life. My life quite frankly has been dark and having to relive that with every new person before you’ve even gotten to know each other NOW leaves me wanting to run. People tend to get enthralled by my life as if they are reading a tragic novel. They want to ask about every nuance and every minutia of detail. No one likes to feel like a science project being poked and prodded. I’m interested in getting to know people as I am. I’m interested in people getting to know ME not my past. I am not my story. I am a person of action. I realize many people enjoy talking about their problems. I’m a solver and I tend to solve my own problems. It is a rare occasion when I seek advice from someone on what to do. If I do open up I’m not looking for advice I probably just want some emotional support. Having someone run down a list of all the things I should do, could do, that I have probably already done ten times is draining. I probably just want someone to offer a bit of sunshine and maybe a hug. If there is no action to be taken I don’t see the point in dwelling on the problem. And so “talking” isn’t something I enjoy if it’s about problems. I do that for a living with my clients and I enjoy focusing on happy things in my free time. Of course I certainly share all my nuances of life if I have those I am close with but personally I don’t find for myself that my own misery loves company. We all have issues, problems and sadnesses but I enjoy connecting with those who have surpassed them or have at least chosen to look on the bright side. My entire life I have been surrounded by heavy, glass half empty, pessimistic hopeless humans and so I have had to spend a lot of time getting out of leaning towards pessimism. Sitting around with a bunch of people sharing negative circumstances is something that I find to be downright soul sucking.