Walking to the top for some nature a great view this Saturday after a week spent indoors. 💦🌤 🌊 🌳
Happy International Women’s Day. Had a lovely surprise today to be included with some wonderful friends and colleagues in Women Lawyers Association of Qld’s Inspo List of Women who have inspired in 2018. A big congratulations to @thehappyfamilylawyer @thefreshstartlawyer and @annmdavid and @lawyercas Oh so thankful to all the wonderful women in my life who encourage, support and inspire me each day! #iwd2018 #grateful #payitforward
“The story of women's struggle for equality belongs to no single feminist nor to any one organization but to the collective efforts of all who care about human rights." - Gloria Steinman - feminist, journalist & activist. Today is International Women’s Day where we celebrate the social, economic, cultural & political achievements of women. It also marks a call to accelerate gender parity. Here is to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.
What happened to January & February??? Goodbye Summer ☀️ Hello Autumn 🍂
Delicious fromage and wine at the the Early Career Lawyers networking event FLPA hosted tonight on all things self care and mindfulness. Thanks @camshwa for your presentation and @thecheesepleaser for the delicious spread enjoyed by all.
@mlynch_familylaw have recently released an update to our flagship publication ‘A Guide to Family Law’. This guide is designed to help with gaining a basic understanding of how Family Law in Australia relates to separation, divorce, support of a former spouse, matters relating to children of a marriage or de facto relationship, property settlement and domestic violence. If you or your organisation would like a bulk delivery please email me directly (firstname.lastname@example.org) #brisbanefamilylawyer #familylawaustralia #thetrailblazinglawyer
The early bird catches the worm - and saves $300! That's a lot of croissants, wine and cheese (or a chunk towards a pair of Louboutins!) Register today before tomorrow's price rise!
Vacay mood. Recharging the batteries with 🏖🧘♀️🌿🙏 =👌
It has been a busy week at MLFL finalising trial for a new client who engaged our firm before Christmas for his trial in February. When the client asked me today why I am a family lawyer when signing his affidavit, I explain how helping people through their journey was rewarding to me. This email from my client after I told him his material was filed also instilled in me that knowing my client knows that I have put them at ease at such an important time in their journey, is also such a rewarding part of my job #thetrailblazinglawyer #familylawyersbrisbane #brisbanefamilylawyer
The Christmas & New Year period can be a difficult time for families, particularly those who have recently experienced a separation. If you need to see a lawyer over this time, our Family Lawyer, Kate Andrews, is available - email@example.com
Don't let Christmas ruin your relationship. Here are our tips to stay together over the holidays. Link in bio
In the middle of a busy last work week, my darling Mum sent my Dad over with a mini Christmas cake! It ended up being lunch so I was very grateful. And it was YUM!!
When you are separating finances or working out arrangements for your children, you have a choice how you do it. There are a range of options to divorce without court - link in Bio
No two family law matters are alike. It’s like comparing apples and oranges 🍎🍊(or apples and pears in the case of this pretty bowl of sparkling wooden fruit🍏🍐). What happened in a friend’s or family member’s case may not necessarily apply in yours. Getting specialised family advice early on in your matter can be pivotal in which path(or trail) your family law matter takes. #thetrailblazinglawyer #familylawyersbrisbane #familylawyer
Bowl of abundance from my new local & sitting in the ☀️ = perfect Saturday lunch🍴
Feeling so proud of the PFL team as I pause to reflect on the week and what has been a massive year! Yesterday the Doyle’s Guide list was released and PFL was named one of only three first tier family law firms in Brisbane, @tonyp2910 @sarahbastian_jordan and I were recognized in the Leading Brisbane Family Lawyer List, in such great company of respected colleagues. Even better still Phil and Steph also received individual recognitions, named as Rising Stars for the first time! So proud that the great depth of our amazing team. A big congratulations to colleagues also recognized and a big thank you to our peers for this recognition. #pflteam #leadingfamilylawyers #doylesguide
The first day of summer 🌞 and the start of the silly season (though with the amount of Christmas 🎄 posts I’ve already seen I think it started a little earlier this year). Christmas can be hard for separated parents. Particularly if it’s their first Christmas after their separation. Our firm, Michael Lynch Family Lawyers has prepared an article to assist separated parents during the holidays. A link can be found in my bio. . . . . . . #thetrailblazinglawyer #brisbanedivorcelawyer #brisbanefamilylawyer #divorcelawyer #divorcedonedifferently #innovativesolutions #thinkoutsidethebox #lawyersofinstagram
#tbt to September and my visit to La Rioja, in northern Spain. When picking my handle for Instagram I wanted something reflective of both me personally and how I practice as a family lawyer. My ethos as a family lawyer is not just to recite the law at my clients. Thanks to the amount of information online it is easy enough to get your head around the basic principles of family law. From my first meeting with my clients we are planning, we are talking tactics and we are starting to plan their path (or trail) through to the next chapter. Combine this with some of my favourite holidays involving touring wine and food regions (trails), there seemed nothing more fitting than ‘The Trailblazing Lawyer’. So in following me you’ll see quiet a lot of law but also a little discovery too. #brisbanefamilylawyer #winelover #coffeepowered #thetrailblazinglawyer
Beautiful pink blooms and a matching latte to brighten up a rainy Wednesday morning. @greenhauscoffee
A family pet is often considered as part of the family, but the law in Australia provides that pets are considered chattels (property) and as such in a divorce, their ownership is determined by the court in a property settlement. As a result, reported Family Court cases about family pets are rare. I reviewed a case for our firm’s website and a link can be found in my bio👆🏻 📸by @jessjacksonphotographer Model: Earl Grey 🐈
As part of the PMC over the weekend we conducted one of those tests to work out your personality style to assist us in managing people. Whilst a diverse group, most were Analytical, Driver and Expressive, leaving me in the minority as the Amiable type. I find that having empathy, is the way solutions are found for my clients and one of my favourite parts of being a family lawyer. . #thetrailblazinglawyer #brisbane #brisbanelawyer #familylaw #brisbanedivorcelawyer #brisbanefamilylawyer #lawyer #divorcelawyer #divorcedonedifferently #innovativesolutions #thinkoutsidethebox #lawyersofinstagram
So excited to come home and see that the package that was waiting for collection was these books I ordered through @kickstart. I love what @rebelgirlsbook are all about and I can’t wait to wrap them for Christmas presents for sisters E & O and C & J. The last one I might just have to keep for myself #brisbanefamilylawyer #familylawyer #rebelgirlsbook #raisingstronggirls
Excited to be offering two paid summer clerkship roles to two PLT or final year law students during January and February 2018 with the opportunity of an ongoing full time paralegal role. Further info in bio and applications close this Thursday so if you know anyone suitable tell them to get in quick! #pflteam #familylaw #summerclerkship
Christmas is a really tough time as a single parent. Most of us won't get to have our kids for the whole day and have to juggle family celebrations around parenting agreements or Court Orders. In the past 6 years since my son's father and I separated, I have had some challenging Christmases as I expect he also has. I can spend every other weekend alone but saying goodbye to my kid at 10am and spending the rest of the day alone.... There is just something about that day! This year is 'my year' so we get from 10am together and then a few weeks to holiday. I have a big surprise planned for him to enjoy with Mum not working AT ALL because the courts and all the family law firms shut down. However, as he will be with his Dad from school breakup then with me for a day, a Christmas tree seems just too much hard work...and maybe too hard a reminder of being alone in the days leading up. So, I am cheerfully blaming the kitten in frame who would no doubt destroy the tree in a heartbeat for the lack of a Christmas tree this year...!!!
So wonderful to attend the launch of Pride in Law tonight with @socialbyseona, @kara4morningside, @stephen_page_lawyer, @annmdavid and many others, supporting friends in the legal LGBTIQ community. And what a week to have your inaugural event!
Thought provoking addresses at the Legal Profession Breakfast this morning... Helen McMurdo, Dame Quentin Bryce and Stan Grant a fantastic line up. And over $103,000 raised to provided much needed support for victims of DV. #legalprofessionbreakfast2017 #womenslegalservice #notnownotever
So happy to hear the resounding result of the postal survey with 61.6% of people saying YES. Next step: get the legislation into parliament and make sure pollies vote the way the public has asked them to!
Today was challenging for me on a few levels.. You can be the best in the world at your job, but there will always be something that challenges you! Meeting with my Dad and my parents' financial adviser. Talking about stuff you really don't want to contemplate. But, having done what I do for this many years, I had to put on my lawyer hat and ask all the questions... Then I had a coaching session and a PT session. Both necessary and great but challenging!! Then tonight a social event... I know I come across as an extrovert but getting out the door to an event is actually quite a big deal for me. I just find it challenging to get there but generally ok once I arrive! Ironically I enjoyed all of these things. Oh the shoes??!! These are my comfort shoes!! Solid heel for standing functions but still a sandal and in my favourite colours. And wearing them into unfamiliar territory gives me a bit of a talking point.
So honoured to present at @thehappyfamilylawyer 'The Club' Retreat today with @camshwa - such an amazing tribe full of inspirational people, sharing ideas and goal setting. Now to enjoy the delicious speaker gift including @bakedlivingness treats. #theclubretreat2018 #findyourtribe #lawyerlearnings
Happy Friday! 😃😃😃
When your kids are not with you, it can be helpful to have little reminders around of them. A photo might not be appropriate for your workplace. Or, like me, your photos are all on your phone! This little creation my guy made is on my desk hutch so I can see it when I take a stretch break (which I do lots... Absolutely... Well...I mean to!!) This week my guy is at school camp. He has every second week with his Dad, but this seems different - perhaps because there is no communication at all....?
I don't celebrate Melbourne Cup anymore so instead I had lunch at a friend's place with a few Greek friends of his. Greek food, music and dancing. He is crazy fun and decided the dancing needed to be traditional so pulled out some plates he didn't like anymore that were tucked in the back of his cupboard and smashed them, Greek style. It got me thinking.... Those plates were not serving him anymore. They were hidden away, taking up space. Now they are gone, there is room for something else in their place. When your relationship breaks down, your heart may be shattered like those plates. Or you may be the one who wanted new plates. Whichever you are, consider what your future relationship will be. If you have children, you have the choice to build a new, different relationship. If you keep hanging onto the old plates, arguing about who smashed them, you jeopardise the chance to create a positive co-parenting relationship.
Communication can be tricky in any relationship. Children can act suddenly deaf when asked to put their shoes on in the morning.... Spouses can shut down during disagreements....Former partners can seem obstinate and refuse to discuss issues that are important to you. If communication difficulties are preventing you from having constructive co-parenting discussions, mediation can facilitate a discussion and agree on how you will communicate in future. Collaborative Law and Mediation can help you develop a parenting alliance around many parenting issues you will face (e.g.: when will the kids be allowed a phone?) Now, please tell me I am not the only one with the morning shoe issue???!!
Some days you wake up and it just feels hard. You might be tired - perhaps exhausted. The combination of parenting, working, dealing with your family law case and managing communication with your ex can be completely overwhelming. You aren't sleeping well and you don't have time to take proper care of yourself. But you don't have to do it all perfectly! It's ok to be feeling like it is hard. Just do one thing that makes you feel good. Finding this beautiful shrub rose was a reminder for me that sometimes you literally (as well as figuratively) need to stop and smell the roses. Focus on one thing you enjoy rather than letting yourself be overwhelmed by everything else. Even a smile (a laugh is even better) can make a difference to your brain chemistry, enabling you to cope better.
For the past couple of days I have been fortunate to attend the Resolution Institute Conference. As a Nationally Accredited Mediator and Registered Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner I have to do 20 hours CPD each year (on top of the 15 hours I do as a lawyer). But when you are learning from the best in Australia and New Zealand, it is a privilege, not a chore. Of course, conflict resolution work is not restricted to mediation. It is an integral part of our practice as family lawyers if we want to truly strive to keep families out of court.
Today I got to see my 93 yo Grandad and take him out for a drive and a lovely meal of fish and chips. I don't get to see him often as he lives in New Zealand. He didn't know I was coming over, so it was a big surprise for him. The smile on his face when I opened the back door was just wonderful. My grandparents were a HUGE part of my life growing up. I treasured my times at Nana and Grandad's and used to run away from Brisbane during the Uni summer holidays to stay with them. Many kids are not fortunate enough to have living grandparents. But some miss out on their grandparents due to post divorce conflict. If you could reach a family law settlement in a way that meant your kids could enjoy all their grandparents, wouldn't you want to give it a try? Collaborative Law (Collaborative Practice) offers a divorce with dignity and respect for all family members.
After receiving a Bachelor of Laws in 1997, it was quite a shock to the system to return to study 20 years later. However, a commitment to helping families reach agreement without going to Court meant the @collawaust Graduate Diploma of Family Dispute Resolution was just something that had to be done. Being in Sydney overnight for a mediation meant I could pop in and receive my award at the graduation ceremony, rather than by post. So glad I did! A reminder of the late nights, lost sleep and missed social engagements that went into attaining this. But it was worth it!
Such an honour to win this award on Friday night surrounded by amazing women lawyers. The message I tried to convey in my speech was inspired by recent media and social media events. In short: Until women uplift each other instead of dragging down successful women, the men signing the paychecks will not take us seriously. Until we stop criticising other women's appearances, we can't expect men to stop commenting on them. Let's be the change we want to see in the world and back each other, as well as ourselves!
Returning to Brisbane after a trip to Melbourne it was lovely to see the sun again after its long absence. When you are going through a separation it can feel like the sun will never break through the clouds. But the storm will pass. Your grief will ease. The stress will decrease. The sun will shine again
And we have an Instagram frame! 📸
Thank you to my family and friends who have made this award possible.
By now you would have received your postal vote forms in the mail, heard campaigns on the television, debates on the radio and received campaign materials in the mail or in public places. Regardless of your view, it is important during this time, to reflect on our current family law system and the impact legalising same sex marriages may have on that system moving forward. Find out more in our latest blog by Special Counsel, Kate Andrews, below. #samesexmarriage #samesexparents #samesexwedding #samesexcouple #samesexfamilies #samesexdebate
Continuing the food theme... I love learning new things and today, reading the #qantas magazine I discovered that when we refer to Devonshire tea, it is a reference to the placement of the jam on TOP of the cream. Who knew???! I don't eat cream so I just opt for jam when I have my Mum's ridiculously good scones but how do you do yours? Jam before cream (Cornish) or Cream before jam (Devonshire)? P.S. Actually I like Mum's cheese scones best!!
Today I am headed off to the US for my first board meeting of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. I don't usually eat bread, but when I travel overseas in the morning, I have a little ritual of having Vegemite on raisin toast for breakfast. The first time I heard of it, it sounded awful but I gave it a try and I love it! Have you tried it? Do you have a ritual for special occasions?
Sometimes if you are patient, even when it seems like you won't get anywhere, something beautiful will grow. Last year we decided to grow fruit and veges as well as herbs. Well, on a balcony that is challenging. Passionfruit is our most fruit so it was first on the list. Keeping it watered enough with very little rain (and no outside tap!) and protecting it from the wind has been quite a challenge. Well spring has sprung here and we have our first two passionflowers! We are very excited! Sometimes it's the small things that matter. Actually, it's always the small things.
Had to duck into Officeworks today (to replace phone headset after kitten chewed through the cord...) Spotted this in a bargain bin and it screamed "BUY ME!" It is not only a favourite quote, from a favourite movie, starring a favourite actor, but it's our colour! So, seize the pen it was!
The house is split down the middle after a divorce, right? Or wrong? Get the facts... Link in bio
With the long weekend, we've taken some time to escape to cooler climate and explore Melbourne. Yesterday we discovered Carlton Gardens, a world heritage listed garden in the middle of the city. Irises are an absolute favourite. Getting into fresh air, green space and natural beauty is important for all of us, especially if you have been having a stressful or busy time. Literally, you need to take time to stop and smell the flowers...
"If you do not plan to make time for relationships, the tyranny of the urgent will always win....." I was reading a Facebook post for a webinar about how entrepreneurs are now measuring success by NOT working weekends, taking holidays and spending time with their families (oh, and having naps - which I am very good at on the weekend...) One of the comments read as follows "As a wife, married to an attorney, who was married to his law practice for years and years, I can attest to the quality of life issues that result. And now, at almost 73, he is having difficulty shutting things down to retire. I feel like I have been waiting for him our entire married lives. I say this because I love him and wanted to have time with him. And we all know that health issues often cloud the so called "Golden Years." If you do not plan to make time for relationships, the tyranny of the urgent will always win. Don't get to the end of your life and realize you neglected the things that truly matter. If there are strategies for making the quality of life better, why not explore them?" One of the common causes for relationship breakdown we see is people who were 'married to their careers or business' and the other spouse felt neglected and like a single parent. Plan and take time for your relationships, be they with your spouse, children, family or friends.
Our household has acquired one of these and can't get past solving the one side. Anyone know the secret?
My weekend....To be filled with rest...nourishment, reading, chilling out and some kinesiology and floating to recovery and restore after a very full week when not feeling so well. My body giving me a reminder to invest in my wellness and slow down. 🙏 for this reminder @spoonful_of_sarah #investinrest #takingtimeout #slowdown
Since becoming a senior lawyer leading a team 10 years ago, it's become rare to be able to have a true holiday and completely detach from the office. With great responsibility comes...great responsibility??!! The time we get to really detach is between Christmas and New Year, when the courts are closed so almost all firms close. It is good for everyone to have a complete break. However, that doesn't mean you can't enjoy some family time during school holidays, even if you have to do the banking authorisations and check a few things. Sometimes just being in a different location helps to detach and relax
It's our third birthday! That means presents of course - but these ones are for YOU. We will be having a free Facebook Family Law Q & A session and a prize giveaway from our friends at Ripple Massage Day Spa And Beauty and First Seven Seconds Resumes & LinkedIn Profiles. Enter via our website: https://www.hetheringtonfamilylaw.com.au/hetherington-family-law-3rd-birthday-giveaway/