At my school, we have a name for the people who make the girls feel unsafe. We call them “the hockey guys.” It doesn’t even really matter if they play hockey. We call them the hockey guys because a majority of the creeps are on the hockey team. The criteria for being a hockey guy is making the female identifying students feel uncomfortable, defending xenophobic ideology, and most often includes sexist, racist, homophobic, and transphobic slurs in the hallways.
I have seen guys who I have trusted completely change once they join the hockey team. I always liked science but have grown to hate it because of the people in my high school science classes. In freshman year, I talked to the Dean at least twenty times about these two hockey guys who were in my physics class because they stared at my ass whenever I stood up, made rape jokes, took things out of another girl’s bag and followed her down the hall when she spoke up.
These boys are the ones with the rich parents. They are the white boys who have never been told no; who have never felt the repercussions of their actions. These boys are ones who will grow up to be predators (if they aren’t already). These boys are fluent in “locker room talk”. These boys are the reason that I started carrying my metal water bottle to school and didn’t just keep it in my locker for the bus.
I am scared of these boys. I am scared of the very real amount of power that they have at my school. I am afraid because I don’t trust that my school would punish them, even if they sexually assaulted someone in front of everyone.
My school didn’t kick out my rapist (who was not a hockey boy nor was he rich). My school didn’t even suspend the hockey guy who sent someone a dick pic in eight grade. My school didn’t do a fucking thing any of the twenty times I talked to the dean about the boys in my physics class. If the system has failed you so many times, why would you trust that it would protect you if something more “serious” happens?
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