In the chase of balance between work and kids, friends and relationship, we sometimes lose sight of happiness. BUT let me tell you what I have learned: good enough is the new perfect; when we lose the grip on perfection and focus on what truly makes us happy our life changes forever. But wait, being good enough its NOT as settling, its about picking priorities, your own priorities. You, and only you, decide in what areas you are going to pour your energy, heart and soul into, and in the others you recognize are beyond you or don’t match your life goals, and you let go.
Also I have learned that house order and finished to-do lists dependent upon an ‘if only’ variable simply doesn’t bring happiness. Instead it leaves us in a perpetually state of feeling behind as we chase after elusive demands in the search of happiness. So, living in the world of ‘if... then’ is a really dangerous way to live because we put our lives on hold. Which, as you might guess, means happiness is on hold.
Let me ask you this: What really make you happy? And please don’t tell me: ‘My kids’, because they definitely bring us joy, but the truth is we moms have to create personal happiness separate from our children. I know it’s a challenge when we’re in the midst of raising kids, it’s hard to ever imagine the pace of motherhood being something different than it is today. Which is why I do believe in working to create our own happiness, even in small amounts. I realized one cannot allow themselves to forget themselves in motherhood.
As much as we all love the idea of the ’10 Simple Steps to a Happy Life’ it just isn’t possible. Life throws too many external variables at us. Divorce, finances, moving, kids, friendship, depression, and just every day stuff. And those variables, again if we think they can be controlled, will suck the happiness right out of our lives. Life takes work, also happiness. I do believe happiness is within us. We think we lost it outside, so we are desperately looking in other places and/or people. Work on finding your life purpose, set your intentions daily and follow your heart, trust you intuition. Your kids are watching and learning from you.